Trust – It Has To Be Earned

I had two new horses move in the other day.  Very interesting.

They are both wild mustangs, which the woman has had since they were weaned, rather abruptly from their mothers may I add.  They are now 23 and 27 years old.

She told me how she calmed them, gained their trust, broke them, used them, and loved them through the years.  So to me, with the age and mileage they had on them, I just treated them like any other horse that would come in.  I introduced myself slowly, honoring them when I approached.  Let them sniff me, and feel my energy.  We were good, I was accepted.  Later that day I went down to see them, and they looked at me like I had four heads. Okay,  where are we, who are you, and what did you do with my mother?  I could appreciate their questions, but just reassured them with a couple of carrots and left them.  That evening I fed them dinner, they were a little cautious, but accepting.  I figured in a few days they would settle in.  It’s a new state, a new place, new surroundings, new horses in the next pastures, but they had each other, and life would be good.  Or maybe not.

Well the next afternoon there were flies bothering the gelding’s eyes (this is Florida, we still have flies on some days even in winter) so I went down with a bucket of cold water to rinse his eyes and to take some of the puffiness out.  I thought I’d put a fly mask on.  Well we had to discuss the possibility of me getting that personal with him, but he decided to trust me, and felt much better afterwards.  He let me put the fly mask on, and life was good.  The mare however, decided that I could not put fly spray on her belly.  Each morning now we go through the asking permission to put the fly masks on, and possibly spraying the bellies.  Remember these horses are turned out in pastures, so it’s a matter of playing “Mother, May I.”  I could put halters on, tie them to a post and just go and do my thing, but to me, and to them, that would be rude and pushy.  They will, in time, accept this like all the others, but for now, we have to learn to trust each other, and we will.

Trust has to be earned, not demanded of.  You may get them to submit when you have them tied down, but being able to walk up to any horse in the pasture, have them willingly come to you, and let you do anything to them, is a much better way.  Oh sure some day’s they are just going to give you a hard time, but for the most part, if you come and approach them calm and relaxed, they are going to go along with it.  The only time they are going to give you a rough time is when you approach them with the “I really don’t have time for this, let’s get it done so I can move on” attitude, they are going to make you work for it.  Then it becomes “Tag, your it.”

This is a good time to look at yourself, adjust your energy and way of thinking.  There’s the old – them as a teacher, and us as the student reality.

Trust comes a little easier to the horses that were born in captivity.  They’ve watched you (or someone) handle their mothers.  There have been people around them since birth.  People have always been in their lives, or around for some reason.  Now you have wild horses that have never had human contact until they were rounded up, in a scary way, abruptly taken away from their mothers, put in very scary places, and put in a new environment, a pen or a stall (solitary confinement).  Why should they trust humans?  I now believe wild will always proceed with caution, and so should we.  Remember to use respect, and they will respond with appreciation.  Not just wild horses, all horses, but especially wild horses.

They use their instincts, so should you.  We have a habit of tuning things out.  We go on auto pilot a lot of the time.  Maybe they have the better idea, maybe we should too.  When I went to self-defence training (that was in the height of car jacking times) the instructor told us to be very aware of our surroundings, especially in parking lots.  Look in the backseat of the car before you get in.  If someone is sitting in the passenger seat next to your car, perhaps walk back to the store for a couple of minutes.  We need heightened awareness, just like our wild friends.  Oh, the other thing he taught us was when we walk through a parking lot, walk with our pocketbooks on the side up against the back of a car.  If you walk with it on your shoulder to the middle of the road, someone can just drive by, slip their arm through you bag and keep going.

So take a walk on the wild side, horses are aware of everything going on around them, we should be too.

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