I was just reading about a woman who picked up a flyer that read “Keys to Forming a New Habit,” and it got me thinking about the similarities with horses.

Her flyer read –

•  Set up attainable goals
•  Measure small steps of progress
•  Avoid negative self-talk
•  Reward yourself for success.

These flyers were placed at a gym in January.  At the beginning of each year we all think about getting healthy and fit; at least for the first couple of weeks.

Now we all know how hard it is to stick to our New Years Resolutions, we try it every year.  To form a new habit we have to do it for 21 days.  Good or bad, it’s up to you.  We usually fail and give up until next New Years Day.

Let’s take this train of thought and apply it to our horses and riding.  I know I’ve quickly touched on this idea in several posts, but now lets elaborate a little more.

• Set up attainable goals. – Not only for yourself, but also for your horse.  Just take one step at a time when trying to learn or accomplish something new or different.
• Measure small steps of progress. – Acknowledge that you have succeeded in what you are trying to do (no matter how small the accomplishment) not only to yourself, but also reward your horse.  We always tell them when they have done wrong, but praise them when they do right.  They are more willing to do the right thing again if they know it was good.
• Avoid negative self-talk – Both to yourself and your horse.  If you keep a positive energy, your horse will feel it, and respond.
• Reward yourself for your success –  And don’t forget to reward your horse.

I’m not saying throw a big party.  Just positive thinking about both of your accomplishments can reinforce the idea in your head, and your horses.

When I was a kid we were always told “quit on your best fence” in our jumping class.  Always end on a positive note or feeling (they taught that in golf lessons too).  This is what your mind and body will remember.  If you are doing something with your horse and he’s not being successful at it (and neither are you) don’t end there.  Go back and do something you will both feel good about, and end with that.  Then next time, after warming up, go back and try the difficult task again.  You both will be refreshed, mind cleared, and ready to give it another try.  Remember, energy and attitude is our biggest step to success or failure.

Don’t forget – “A winner is a loser who gave it one more try.”  You can, and will be a winner if you take all this to heart, and apply it.

Happy Valentines Day!