This is a question I’m asked often.

This is what I do.  You can use it as a sample as to what to look for in an instructor.

First question I always ask the child is “What do you want to do with your riding?”  Then I can either give them basics, and when they are ready, send them to an instructor who is going to further their particular riding interest (such as barrel racing), or continue teaching them myself.

When I send them off to another part of the state or to another state I first try to locate an ARIA certified riding instructor in their area.  ARIA stands for the American Riding Instructors Association.  When I certified with them in 1998 I was astonished at how high their standards of testing really are.  Safety is their main concern, as it should be, but the amount of knowledge that you needed to pass the tests were totally amazing.  If someone is ARIA certified, they know their stuff.   There are people out there that are excellent instructors, who have never tested or certified, it just requires more discernment on your part.

Anyone can hang out a sign saying they give riding lessons, but how much do they really know.  Just because a person hangs out a sign that says “Doctor Is In” doesn’t mean they know a hill of beans about diagnosis and treatments, you really had to pass the exams and had hands on time to be a real doctor.  Why do people trust their children’s lives to someone who just wants to make money at something they think is fun.  Someone may have been riding their whole life, but that doesn’t mean they’ve been doing it right.  Do they know how to see what the problem is and know how to teach the correct method of accomplishing the goal?  Do they know their horses, and do they know how to keep your child safe.  Some people have the gift of explaining things, and some don’t.  We all had teachers in school who made learning easy and fun, and other teachers who knew their subject, but just didn’t know how to get it across to the students.  The same with riding instructors.  There is a saying, that I don’t agree with –  “Those who can ride, ride, those who can’t ride, teach.”  Riding is the easy part, teaching requires that you know how to ride, understand the horse, and know how to explain how to accomplish the task at hand.

Riding can be a dangerous sport, you need someone who can keep your child safe, and make it a fun learning experience.  If it’s no longer fun, stop doing it.  Don’t push a child into riding because you always wanted to do it as a child.

What I tell the parents is “If it doesn’t feel safe to you, it probably isn’t.”  Yes some parents are just prone to worry, but most parents know when something is extremely dangerous to their child.

• Don’t hesitate to ask about the instructors teaching experience, and if you would like, ask for references
• Watch the instructor give lessons to other people
• If they have a web site, go there, are there pictures of other children, are they smiling and having fun
• Look around, does it look like a safe environment.
• Is the equipment in good condition
• Are the horses well cared for
• Do the horses look fearful or calm and happy
• Is the instructor focused on what they are doing or are they distracted or on a cell phone
• Are they relaxed and confident in their job
• Do they have a lesson plan in place before they start
• Do they listen and are they really hearing you and your child
• Are they prompt and professional
• Do they get to know your child before they start teaching
• Do they keep you informed about what they plan to teach and what they seem to notice about your child’s fears and performance
• If you follow them to a show, are they screaming at the children or do they give them uplifting comments of encouragement.  Are the children having a good time or are they afraid of making a drastic mistake
• Is all that matters the blue ribbon, or are the children praised for the good job that they did that day

Take the time to find the right instructor.  You need to know that the person you have chosen, is safe, are kind to their horses, knows their job, and connects well with your child.  There are different techniques of teaching, find one that works for your child.

A little knowledge on your part,  goes a long way.

I just looked up the correct wording of the infamous quote by Franklin D. Roosevelt, now that was an Inaugural Address on March 4, 1933.  I’m long in the tooth, but that was still before my time.  You may have heard “Long In The Tooth” but never thought about the fact that it came from horse trading.  The seller would say he’s a five-year old and the buyer (beware) would look in the horse’s mouth and say “he’s long in the tooth for a five-year old.”  Well anyway back to my subject.

When posting an appointment on my refrigerator this morning, I glanced at a “post it” I had put there some time ago which read “Fear is the single most dangerous and destructive force in a relationship with a horse.  Eradicate fear and you begin to develop trust.”  Don’t remember who said it, or where I copied it from, but it struck me then, as it strikes me now.  How true that statement is, how paralyzing fear can be in any situation, but when you add a horse to the mix it’s down right dangerous.

Finding the root cause of a particular fear is not always an easy process.  I am not educated in the workings of the mind, conscience or unconscientious, but over the years I have worked with many people to help them move past their fears and learn to enjoy riding again.

Okay, we’ve all seen a friend walk up to our horse with a carrot in their hand terrified that after the horse is done with the carrot their hand will also be missing.  They reach out ready to pull back at any moment.  Our patient horse reaches for the, all of a sudden missing carrot.  The other extreme is the rider who has had a bad fall, but wants desperately to get back to riding again.  They sit on the horse like it’s going to explode any minute.

I have a terrible fear of water.  I can finally put my face under the shower.  But I sink like a rock, and have failed the YMCA swimming course twice.  With that said I have been boating for over 40 years.  No I do not wear a life vest.  To an outsider I look confident as I handle the lines and jump from the deck to the dock without fear.  People ask me how I do that when they find out I can’t swim, float, or tread water?  I tell them it’s simple, I don’t plan on falling in.

So how does this relate to fear and our horses.  Well I don’t plan on falling, but it is a reality.  I used to have the habit of falling off once a year when I was hunting.  If you don’t fall off and find out that you’re still okay, you build the fear up in your mind and begin to believe that it’s really going to mess you up.  And when I fall it’s usually because I’ve done something really stupid.

Case in point.  On my sixtieth birthday I got on my horse and said “I’m 60 now and I can’t fall off, I’ll get really hurt.”  Well as I was walking around the pasture to stretch Zoey out I decided to turn the water on for the irrigation system.  I hung off her right side as far as I could go, but still couldn’t reach it.  So I hung down just a little more, put my heel in her side and she said “Oh I know this, you step over to the left!”  She did and I hit the ground.  She stood there and looked at me with those eyes that say “Oh my, people are so stupid.”  I laid on the ground hysterically laughing, hoping that no one was watching.  Picked myself up, got back on my horse, and said to Zoey “Okay, I’m 60 today, I just hit the ground, and nothing has changed from yesterday when I was 59, I’m still stupid, lets ride.

Fear is our worst enemy when we are with our horses.  They pick up on it.  They will either become fearful themselves, because they believe you are supposed to take care of them and you’re scared, or they are going to take full advantage of you.

First thing you have to do is figure out what you are afraid of.  What is the worse thing that can happen?  How did you get this fear?  You have to be upfront with yourself.  Then you go back to square one and start again until you get comfortable.  Take one step at a time.  Yes you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone to progress, but don’t rush the process.  Are you and your horse incompatible?  Or just temporarily not the right fit to work through your fear?  Perhaps you need a trained instructor to help you work through your fear, to give you encouragement and support.  Perhaps you need a confident horse to help you rebuild your confidence.  If that’s the case, see if your instructor or a friend can loan you one for a short time.

As we get longer in the tooth, we realize the responsibilities we have.  We acknowledge that if we do get hurt that many things like, our job or families will suffer.  Not to mention, who’s going to take care of the animals.  We may have to rethink our riding goals, or the horse that we are riding, but the one thing I do know is that we have to eliminate our fear.  It will keep us from being who we are, and doing what we really want to do.  Oh I’m not saying we need to throw caution to the wind and seize the moment.  What I’m saying is that we have to put everything in its proper perspective, and work to make the necessary changes.

Fear is paralyzing, don’t let fear rob you of true enjoyment.  You can overcome it.  There really isn’t anything to fear but fear itself.   Don’t give fear the power over your life.

Drums keep pounding rhythm to the brain…….La Dee Da De Dee….La Dee Da De Da or something like that.  You know the old song from Sonny and Cher.  Oops, I’m dating myself.

In Breathless Aaaaah I spoke about the beat.  Let’s look at that more closely.

Horses gates have different beats.  Walk is a four beat, trot two beat, canter three beat, and gallop four beat.  Listen as your horse walks on concrete or a hard road.  You can now hear each individual foot fall.  That’s why I say pick a song with the beat of the gait you are doing, and maintain that beat.

Music can make us move or relax depending on the song we pick.  Think about the songs that you just can’t stay still with.  Now think of the songs that make you take a deep breath and relax.  The ones that call to mind pleasant memories.  Now I’m not saying that a few fast songs can’t remind you of great times too, I’m only saying think about the different way each one makes you feel.

My girlfriend called me one day saying that her daughter was having trouble with her Dressage Tests at the shows, could I help?  I am not a “Dressage” Instructor, but all basic riding, in one form or another, is dressage.  I told her to bring her over and let me look where the problem might be.  I knew the horse and I knew her daughter.  She was an excellent rider and the horse would do anything she asked.  So where could the problem be coming from?

I watched them warm up – no problem there.  So I asked for a copy of the test she was going to be riding at the show the next day, and there was the problem.

!!!!!”TEST”!!!!!!  There was no problem with the riding, it was the simple four letter word, “Test!”  She was doing the exact same movements when warming up, but go and do the test, and she tightened up.

It’s amazing how certain words can change everything.  To some people the words dentist, marriage, tax audit, shark, test, and tornado trigger certain responses in our bodies.

So back to how I redirected her thought process.  Music.  A simple CD player.  I asked her to ride the movements to different songs, not necessarily in the sequence of the test.  Notice I used the word movements, not test.  She did fabulous, smiling, singing, having a great time with her horse.  They were confident, free-flowing, dancing together as one.  I simple told her never to think of it as a test, think of it as a choreographed dance number that the two of them were performing together.  She should sing her way through the next days class, just like today, and that I would be there.

So I guess you want to know what happened?

Of course nothing ever goes smooth at the barn the morning you’re looking to get out of there early.  So we got there just as she was about to enter the ring.  The color was drained out of her face, she had a death grip on the reins, and a blank stare in her eyes.  There wasn’t any time to try to reason with her, so I did what any other instructor would do.  I told her that the judge was sitting there totally naked and how can you take anyone who is naked seriously – just sing.  She started laughing so hard I figured she’d be excused.  She laughed and smiled through the whole test and when she was done, had come up with the best score she had even received.

So just have fun with your horse.  Instead of doing the same old thing you do everyday, jazz it up and add music.  It will give you a whole new feeling for what you are doing, and your horse will love it too.  Mainly because you are having such a good time, you will be relaxed.

And the beat goes on.

It’s amazing how so many songs come up, in my warped little mind, when I’m thinking of things I want to write about.  Commercials also.  After all that’s what marketing directors strive for isn’t it?

My new posts are usually a continuation of a previous post.  Although I don’t post them in the order I write them.

Breathing is something we do without thinking about it, but on the other side of that coin, holding our breath is something we don’t think about either, and it really can have an effect on your riding.

Hold your breath.  Feel all your muscles tense up?  Bet your horse does.  I bet he’s thinking, she’s tense and afraid, what does she know that I don’t?  Guess I should start worrying about what’s going to eat us now.   Jig jig jig, I’m worried, yup, I’m worried.  Now exhale, feel all the tension leave your body and muscles?  Horse thinks ‘Okay, life is good.’  When we relax, our horse will also relax.

The explanation I use with my students when they are learning how to sit a trot is:  Your body is like a child’s rubber ball, when the ball is tight and holds the air in it bounces.  Now puncture the ball and when you go to bounce it, the air comes out and it won’t bounce.  Now your body is like that ball.  Hold your breath and you’ll bounce, breath normal, letting the air go in and out, muscles relaxed, and you will sit and move with your horse instead of against him.  It’s just that simple.  If you and your horse are both relaxed, just slow him down, breath, relax more and move with your partner, just like you’re dancing.  Trust me, the horse doesn’t want you bouncing on his back either.  This breathing/relaxing works at any gate to get your horse to relax and trust you.

Of course there are horses that are harder to sit to than others.  They have a lot of push to their trot.. but if you totally relax it will work.  Some times it’s just easier on the horse and you to post.

If you do find yourself holding your breath you need to find out what is causing your anxiety.  Go back and work on that and then try to relax and breath.  A good way to learn how to breath while you are riding is to sing.  You can’t hold your breath and sing at the same time.  Pick a fun song with the beat of the speed you are going.  The beat will also set the pace for the horse and help him maintain that pace.  If you are walking, get a nice, calm, slow song.  Trotting, get one with a bouncy beat.  Cantering, get one with a flowing beat.  That’s how we used to get our horses to maintain their speed in a Hunter Class.

It really doesn’t matter if you have a voice that would land you a spot on “American Idol”, your horse knows what you sound like and loves you anyway.  They love to hear you speak, it reassures them, and as a bonus, it keeps you breathing.

Let it be a breath of fresh air for you and your horse.

Okay, that commercial really got annoying after a while, but how many of us use that saying, over, and over again.

Perhaps, if you listen closely, you may hear your horse saying that to you.

Your horse is always saying something to you through his/her body language, eyes, ears, aggression, foot stomping, voice, or kindness.  Some days they are suggesting and some days they are screaming it in their heads.  When the smoke and fire starts coming out of their eyes, ears, and noses, we do catch on.

Let’s look at some of these:

• Body language – a. Tense – I’m scared (this thing is going to eat or hurt me), b.  Angry usually goes along with scared (think about when you’re angry, it’s usually a follow-up caused by hurt or being scared) or c. Relaxed – I’m happy about what we are doing.  There is nothing that is going to hurt me.
• Eyes – a. Soft eyes equal secure and relaxed (Life is good).  b. Chicken eyes (also known as deer caught in the head lights), in which you see the whites around the color, (except in the case of Appaloosas who have the sclera) usually indicates panic.
• Ears – a. Relaxed and floppy equal totally content, not a care in the world.  b. Pricked forward, interested in what going on ahead.  Alert and attentive.  c. Really intensely forward, oh my gosh, it’s the boogeyman. d. Casually back, listening for things behind or a word from the rider.  e.  Flat back pressed against the neck.  Attack mode, man the torpedoes, bombs away!
• Aggression – I’ve had it, I’m done, get out of my way.
• Foot stomping.  I haven’t seen it in many horses.  Usually they are just stomping to get a fly off, but Bob’s Clydesdale mare, Maggie, used to do it when she was angry, (and so do some children).  When Dawn was a baby and did something that Maggie didn’t like she would stomp her foot (when a Clyde stomps their foot it shows on the Richter Scale) and Dawn would stop what she was doing and spring to attention.  I started doing it when I was training Dawn and at first she acknowledged it, then she realized I didn’t have the same impact as mom, and just ignored my stomping.  Now that she’s all grown up I see her do it to other horses, and they pay attention.
• Voice – There are different calls for different occasions.  a, You’ve all heard them call when it’s dinner time and you’re late.  b. The nicker of welcome to a friend or a mare to its foal.  c. Screaming out of fear of being left and vulnerable.
• Kindness –  a. A nuzzle to show affection to another.  b. Standing over their friend, protecting and ready to warn in case of danger, or dinner.  c. Were you ever in the pasture and just had your horse come up and stand next to you, maybe touch you gently.  d.  Mutual grooming between friends (animal or person).

Remember a horse judges everything based on what’s important in his life.  Safety and food rank the highest in importance.

What they might be trying to tell you.

1. It hurts, I’m scared, this doesn’t fit right, I can’t do this, I don’t understand.
2. Head tossing – is the bit too tight, too small, have you checked the contour of his mouth does it fit right, are your hands too high causing the bit to hit the roof of his mouth, do you have the chain twisted, do you have heavy hands.  It may also be that he wants to take control of the situation, in other words, who’s the boss here?
3. Angry look when you are trying to saddle –  the saddle doesn’t fit, the girth pinches, you pull it up too tight too fast, my back hurts, I have a broken rib that you don’t know about, I don’t like you riding because you bounce on my spine.
4. This scares me – I don’t know what you are asking, I might get hurt, I am physically, or emotionally not prepared to do this, the boogeyman lives there, and I don’t trust you to take care of me, it’s dark in that trailer and I can’t get away if something bad happens.
5. I don’t understand – and if I don’t do it right you’re going to hit me.  I’m not a mind reader and I can’t figure out what you want.

But do you get my point?  They are always communicating with us, but we have our mute button turned on.

Horses aren’t born bad (although I’ve met a few that I have doubts about).  By not listening, sometimes we train them to be bad.

Sometimes they just don’t like doing something.  Is it because it hurts?  Is it because it scares them?  Do you and your horse like doing the same things?

An old saying comes to mind – are you trying to put a square peg in a round hole?  Is your horse cut out physically, mentally, and emotionally for the job you are asking him to do?  Are you two different personalities fighting against each other?

An athlete who doesn’t train and condition properly will hurt after his work out.  Do you only take your athlete out on the weekends and work him hard?  Then he aches for 5 days and it’s Saturday again and out you two go for another long hard ride again?  Ouch!

I always tell my students – Finding the right horse is like finding the right husband, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find that prince.  Don’t settle.

Don’t pick a horse because it’s pretty, or the right color.  Pick one that also enjoys what you want to do.  Pick one that compliments your personality.  You’ll both be a lot happier if you do.  Don’t make both of your lives miserable trying to make them into something they are not right for.  If a horse enjoys what he is doing he will give you 150%.  If he doesn’t like what he is doing, he won’t do it well or safely.  It could become dangerous to you both.

I think Amy Fleming from the TV series “Heartland” said it best – “We don’t whisper to horses, we listen to horses.”  Your horse is always trying to tell you something.

Are you listening?  Can you hear me now?

Now you’re probably wondering what I mean by that, or maybe not.

When I was a teenager, many moons ago, I rode and worked at an English barn.  There was a barn up the road that everyone rode Western.  We were friends and spoke often when we met on the trail, but we kind of looked down on each other.

Really not much has changed, but in a way it has.  I knew many Hunt people who looked down on Dressage people, and Western still looks sideways at English, and visa versa.   But more and more you will see cross overs.  There is Western Dressage now.  We’ve seen top Western and Dressage riders demonstrating their versions of the same move.  Does this shed any light on a reality?  Okay so maybe a Dressage horse doesn’t perform a sliding stop, but I’ve sure seen some Western horses do “Airs above ground” to their riders shock.

My point is that teaching you and your horse other disciplines, is not a bad idea.  You don’t have to switch saddles, just ride.

Sure English riders teach their horses to move off their leg, but isn’t more fun to practice it with a set of cones set up like a pole bending course?  Yes we can work our horses at figure eights, but isn’t more interesting to work them in figure eights around two barrels.  It gives you something to base your circle on, and gives the horse something else to think about.  The light bulb comes on when there is another object to focus on.

Good Western Horseman have always posted when they were working their horses at an extended trot. Their basic position is the same as English, just the saddle is different.  They work their horses over low jumps to get themselves and their horses comfortable for either a trail class or just out on the trails.

Some English riders have a great time showing their Western friends that their horses can perform in Gymkhana classes and win.

When you drill your horses on the same thing everyday, they get bored and learn to hate their jobs.  Mix it up a little, keep what they are doing fresh.

I had a young horse years ago that I was breaking, she was extremely smart and learned immediately.  Once she learned something, like trotting or cantering in a circle don’t ask her to do it the next day, she would stop and buck you off.  So every day I had to move cones and barrels just to amuse her, and not let on that she was still doing a circle.

No matter what your discipline is, take your horse on a trail ride.  It clears their mind.

I’ve known some barrel horses that just won’t go through a gate into a ring anymore.  Sour wasn’t the word.  Riders would back them in, have someone lead them in, just short of using a blindfold to get them into the ring.  Try bringing them into a ring with other horses and no barrels, jumps, or Dressage letters, just for relaxation.  Being with a herd is normal and comforting to them.  Show them that a ring can be more than work.  This goes for all disciplines.  Give them time off and trail ride them for a while, they might come back, or they may be done with that line of work.  What I’m trying to say is don’t let them get to that point.  I’m not picking on just barrel horses.  It can happen  in any discipline.  I had a jumper who felt the same way about going in a ring. I’ve known some show horses that hated going around the ring in circles, they just wouldn’t do it anymore.  How many times can you go around, and around, before you learn to hate it.  How many times can you be drilled to do Dressage moves before you hate it.  You’re being put into a frame and never be allowed to stretch you neck down.  With Fox Hunting, a horse either absolutely loves it, or it totally unnerves them.

Now most professionals know when to back off.  A barrel racer, will not run a clover leaf pattern when practicing, they may work them at a trot or collected canter around two barrels doing a figure eight, but rarely at a run and using three barrels.  A good Hunter rider will school their horses over fences, but not over and over again, and certainly not putting the jumps up higher and higher as the horse tires.  A Dressage rider will practice all the moves, not necessarily in a particular pattern, but they will also let the horses relax and stretch.

Keep your horses in love with their jobs, and let them experience others.

If you are in a boring job, that you repeat everyday, over and over again, you know what I am talking about.  Don’t we all look forward to the weekend, a change of pace, to refresh our minds and give us the energy to go back and do the same stuff again on Monday?  Your horse would like that option also.

So if you’re an English rider, trot and then run a set of barrels or poles, just for the fun of it.  If you are a Western rider, see if you can do a Dressage pattern, it’s very similar to a Western Riding pattern.  Get a bunch of friends together and compete against each other in opposite disciplines.

Just have some fun with your horse.  Try it, you’ll like it, and so will they.

Another one of those “Oldie But Goodie” songs.

It’s something that we all want, but don’t always give or get.

You may say that you try to get respect from your horse, sometimes you do, and sometimes you don’t.  That problem goes back to you not being consistent in what, and how you ask.  If you let him get away with something sometimes, he’s not going to know if it’s acceptable today or not.  “CONSISTENT.”

But that’s not where I’m going with this.

Yes you want respect from your horse, but your horse wants respect from you also.

Abuse, under any circumstance, is still abuse.

Most of the people who would even think about reading this post, are caring, loving horse people.  The ones who need to be more respectful of their horse are too involved in themselves to care if the horse is being respected.  Their horse is just another piece of equipment and a means to their goal.  You can usually see the difference in the horses attitude and performance.

A horse that has respect and trust for his rider is one that has been carefully taught that their person, loves them and will keep them safe.  I was going to say that Trust is the key word here, but unless it’s incorporated with Safe it doesn’t work.  You tell your horse that doing something is perfectly safe and then he gets scared or hurt, is he going to believe you the next time?  I don’t think so.  Remember a horse is a fight or flight animal, and flight is their first choice.  Their person is the lead mare who makes sure their needs are met, will warn them when there is a danger, and support them through any difficult situation.  You must first believe in yourself before asking your horse to believe in you.  If you are not strong and confident, your horse will have a hard time believing that the horse eating boogeyman behind that bush isn’t going to get him.

The horse that believes in his rider will go above and beyond what his rider asks.  They will put their life on the line for someone they trust and respect.  I’ve been blessed many times over with horses that would do anything for me.  They weren’t my horses and I wasn’t their rider, we were a team.  I know I’ve written about this before, but if you’ve ever experienced it, nothing can describe it.  We thought as one, we moved as one.

My one horse, Desert, I raised from a baby.  He wasn’t my horse, he was an extension of my soul.  He knew what I wanted before I even asked, and I knew him as if he were me.  It’s kind of how they describe the interaction between twins, no words needed.  He would do things for me that were really impossible for him, no questions asked.  He was wonderful to use for lessons.  He would tell on the children when they weren’t doing something right.  He was also a prankster and a comedian.  He always made me smile.  It broke my heart the day he died, but he can still make me smile when I think of him.  As a baby (I had way too much time on my hands waiting for him to grow up) I used to tie my jacket over his head and then lead him through a maze of obstacles.  When it came time for me to ride him over a bridge that was washed out, two planks wide with a 20 foot drop, he did it without batting an eye, several times I might add for that fox had a sense of humor.

You can’t muscle them into doing things like this, they have to trust.  It has to come from their hearts or they won’t be safe doing what you are asking.  If a horse loves you and trusts you he will go beyond all your expectations.  If the horse does something because he’s afraid of the consequences he will not do it well or safe.  I know I say this a lot.

Do you have this kind of relationship with your horse?  Why not?

Make the effort, you will never regret it – ever.

There are so many trainers out there how do you know which one to follow?

Many people ask me which one I follow.  The truth is that I was doing this long before some of these people were born.  I am glad that they are showing a kinder approach to training horses, but are they really?

Running a horse until it is totally exhausted, then saying look what I can do, as you start a chain saw over its head, is not horsemanship, its cruelty (the exhaustion, not the chain saw).  We are removing the fire and the spirit that can make a great horse.  We are turning them into zombies, with no life in their eyes.  I have seen more problems created, maybe unintentionally, by judges and breed associations which trickle down to the owners themselves.  Is there really a difference in breaking their spirit the old way or the new?

Every horse person will do things a little different.  Much of it isn’t right, or wrong, it’s just different.  We all find what works best for us and our horses.  The most important thing to remember is that each horse is different, and what worked well with one horse may not work with another.  Nothing is cast in stone.  The minute you think you’ve got everything figured out, you get a horse that read that book and won’t play by the rules.  You can force them, but it will usually backfire at the wrong time.  Don’t leave holes in their training either, that will show up  eventually too.

Which trainer.  Well I’ve listened to pretty much all of them.  They each have many good points.  If it doesn’t necessarily apply to the horse you’re working with at this time, file it in your memory for another horse, another time.  Some of the trainers out there, I find, are not safety conscious.  Yes it may work for them because they are professionals, have been around psycho horses before, are quick in their response time, and aware of the horses body language.  Saying that, it may also catch up on them one day.  There’s always one horse out there that is going to teach us a thing or two.  I don’t care how great a trainer they are, they’re not going to publish their mistakes.  My problem with them is that they don’t always remember that they are dealing with many new horse owners who don’t have the thought or reaction time that they do.  They don’t always set good examples for their viewers.

My pet peeve is when they teach you to bend low to encourage your horse to move on in a round pen or on a longe line.  If you don’t have a helmet on, aren’t far enough away, or if you take your eyes off your horse for a second, you have put yourself if the firing line of his back feet.  Horses will kick out if you chase them.  You can encourage a horse to move forward standing straight with your eyes up focused on your horse.  When people drop their heads, they usually drop their eyes.  They never see those feet coming.

The long lead or longe line dragging on the ground scares me too.  When people are focusing on the horse they aren’t aware of where their feet are and where the line may be.  They can get their feet tangled in the rope.  Now you’ve got a scared horse, dragging a body, that they think is chasing them.  Wow, sounds like a great idea to me, that will make them run forward really fast.

Some trainers send a message to their viewers or clients that helmets aren’t required, not in words but in their own actions.  Very sad.  As professionals, it is their responsibility to teach safety at all times.  The inexperienced are watching everything they do, and take it as gospel truth.

What is my theory?  Safety first.  Murphy’s Law usually wins out.  If it can possibly go wrong, it will.  Be clear in what you are asking your horse to do, set boundaries, and most of all be safe and consistent.  We’re always quick to tell them when they are wrong, but don’t forget to tell them when they are right.  They learn from positive reinforcement.

An old saying comes to mind.  Are you trying to put a square peg in a round hole?  Is your horse cut out physically, mentally, and emotionally for the job you are asking him to do?  Are you two different personalities fighting against each other?  Can we make this marriage work.  I always tell my students – You’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find that prince.

Another thing that drives me crazy is when you get a parent wanting a young horse to grow up with their children.  Really?  Do you always hire a five-year old baby sitter to take care of your nine-year old child?  Older, trained horses are ideal for the novice or timid rider, and experienced riders are better suited for the young novice horse.  The more experienced will train the inexperienced.  Now that makes sense.

Be a thinking and responsible horse owner.  Do what is right for you both, even if it means placing him in a different home or job.

Take into consideration the things I have mentioned above when looking for a trainer.  Some of these trainers market themselves really well.  Buyer beware.

Because I’ve been there, its Just my way of thinking.

We’ve all watched sports games where the referee calls interference, but who is calling it on you and your horse?  How may you be interfering with what is natural for him?

Most every movement we ask a horse to make is natural to him.  It’s just communicating the right signals to get the response we’re looking for.  It doesn’t matter if it’s dressage moves, jumping, pole bending, pivoting on the fore, or a roll back.  These are all natural maneuvers for a horse.  Even thinking of the Lippizzan Stallions performing a capriole through the air, these moves were taken, and used by the military for combat purposes.

Let’s just think about each of these movements, what the horse uses them for, and how we interfere.

• A horse will jump something to save his life, but not necessarily 5 foot.  Some enjoy it more than others.
• Have you ever seen an animated horse prance in place?  Perform flying changes while playing in the field?  Dressage.
• Have you watched your horse running through a bunch of trees, bending and weaving?  Pole Bending.
• When you come with a halter to catch your horse and he’s not interested?  Pivot on the fore or hind to avoid you.
• How about when another horse goes to kick them, or they see the horse-eating boogie man behind a bush.  Roll back.
• When you turn them out on a cold morning have they ever leaped in the air just for the joy of it, possibly kicking out?  Sign them up for the Spanish Riding School.

These are all natural movements for horses.  When we’re trying to get them to do a specific movement, we just confuse them with our signals.  It takes time and patience to teach them this signal equals this movement.  But it’s wonderful when you get that aha! moment.

So how do we interfere?  Usually with our body, balance, or not a clear signal.  Of course we did nothing wrong, it must be the horse.  He’s either ignoring us, or he’s just stupid.  Whoa!  You need to rethink this whole mind-set.

• Try running holding a wiggling child or dog.  Messes up your balance doesn’t it.  How steady is your balance on your horses back.  Is it in the right place at the right time?
• Try carrying something heavy on one side.  Kind of pulls you to that side doesn’t it?  Most people aren’t even aware that they are riding crooked.
• Try laying on the floor flat on your stomach, have a child sit on your shoulders and try to get up.  Horse trying to lift off for a jump with you on his front end.
• Your horse is trying to pick up a lead, pivot on the fore or hind.  Where is your weight? Are you helping or hindering?
• Going around a barrel or poles.  Are you fearful and off-balance?  Or are you moving with, and helping your horse?

See if you can spot what you are doing wrong the next time you try any of these maneuvers, and then think what you can do to help your horse in the future.

A horse and rider combination is like “Dancing With The Stars.”  If one partner is doing the Cha-Cha and one is doing the Tango it’s just not going to work.  You both have to Waltz together.  One must lead, that would be you, and one must follow.  It must be a smooth, flowing movement as one.

That’s my whole point, becoming one with your horse.  Try it, you and your horse will like it.